You can love your family deeply without giving them your loyalty and allegiance no matter what

Love. Loyalty. Allegiance.

These words are often synonymous with family. Family can be defined in many ways: our household (biological or non), friends, teammates, sorority sisters, fellow countrymen, [insert your definition here].

I have felt the same pull that many feel: the pull to love my family, evidenced by my loyalty and allegiance. If I love x, then I will show my love by siding with x above all else. That’s what family does. Family has one another’s backs...right?

I mean...

Family would NEVER tell the truth if the truth appeared to be against the members’ best interests.

Family would NEVER publicly share what was supposed to be kept among themselves.

Family would NEVER start a nonprofit based on the trauma caused behind